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Will No One Defend Romance?
We live in curious times. Last week in The D, Campbell Haynes ‘14 responded to Susan Patton’s advice to Princeton undergraduates that they seek life-long love as students while they are surrounded by compatible peers:
Patton’s letter reveals more about the generation to which she belongs than the one to which she gave advice. Her letter implicitly privileges monogamy over hookups, dating over dance floor make-outs and finding a spouse over screwing around…
Women cannily use hookups as a delaying tactic, gaining a taste for real-world relationships while still prioritizing schoolwork and their friendships.
Patton misses the big picture: Princeton women do not suffer from a lack of options. They suffer from a lack of time. Increasingly, and thankfully, they are choosing to avoid romantic entanglement and instead maximize personal success.
Campbell’s view is hardly a new one. There have always been mercenary guys who “screw around” on their way to the big money. “Use ‘em and lose ‘em” is a pungent phrase from the past. As is “Find ‘em, f**k ‘em and forget ‘em.” Or the more recent “Bros before hoes.” A trophy wife is usually part of the plan.
However his opinion — Campbell is a he — is original in one respect. He imputes it to present-day women as well as to men. And I guess, from my own investigations, he is accurate in this opinion about some people. There probably are many Dartmouth women (and men) who will receive their diploma having had sex with 50 or more people over four years. A hookup every weekend or two adds up fast. Perhaps such behavior relaxed them, helped them get on with their studies, and allowed them to be accepted to a fine grad school.
And perhaps one day, too, they’ll shift gears and find the right person, to love and cherish ‘til death parts them. But out here in the real world, there are counter examples aplenty among men and women both: the accomplished, lonely people who stay alone, or finally settle for whomever comes along; the jaded and cynical folks who don’t give love half a chance before trying yet another relationship; the veterans of multiple divorces.
However today we need not think along those lines; let’s accentuate the positive. While literature does not yet celebrate the exaltations of drunken hookups, it has a thing or two to say about love. From E. M. Forster’s A Room With a View:
You see, there are more noble dreams in life than intoxicated grappling in a dirty basement and a job at an investment bank.
August 14, 2013
Breaking: Of Crips and Bloods and Memories of Ghetto Parties
History repeats itself, first as tragedy and then as farce, or sometimes it just repeats itself. From the New York Times on November 30, 1998: At Dartmouth College, white students at a ”ghetto party” dressed…
June 25, 2013
Dean of the College Charlotte Johnson’s War on Students Part (2/2)
Part 1, Part 2 Today’s post again recounts the events that befell the Freshman. However, the content of the Hanover Police department report reproduced in this space yesterday is supplemented by information from my own…
October 18, 2009
When Love Beckoned in 52nd Street
We were at San Francisco’s BIX last evening, enjoying prosecco, cheese, and a bit of music. A full year of inhabitation in Northern California has unraveled to me no decent venue for proper lounging, but…
October 9, 2009
D Afraid of a Little Competish
So our colleague and Dartblog writer Joe Asch informed me that the D has rejected our cunning advertising campaign. Uh-oh. The Dartmouth is widely known as a breeding ground for instant New York Times successes,…
September 4, 2009
How Regents Should Reign
As Dartmouth alumni proceed through the legal hoops necessary to defuse a Board-packing plan—which put in unhappy desuetude an historic 1891 Agreement between alumni and the College guaranteeing a half-democratically-elected Board of Trustees—it strikes one…
August 29, 2009
Election Reform Study Committee
If you are an alum of the College on the Hill, you may have received a number of e-mails of late beseeching your input for a new arm of the College’s Alumni Control Apparatus called…
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